Tuesday, June 15, 2010

The need to talk

I always have the need to talk and I believe it is a flaw of mine and I don’t know how to correct it.

Let me give you a couple of examples:

-I get into work and people ask me how my weekend was I could limit myself to say it was fine or relax, but no here I go giving all the details.
-I have a doctor’s appointment. I could keep it to myself, yet everybody knows and then when they ask how it went, I can not say ok I have to again give details.

I do the exact same thing in every area of my life and it is not good. I am a complete open book, I have nothing to hide, but I should keep certain things to myself.
If you ask me to talk about myself to get to know me, within 2 hours of the conversation you will probably know some deep secrets of mine.

I don’t know how to stop and this is part of my therapy.

Do you have any suggestions?

PS I need to talk about my Summer giveaway dont foreget about it ;)

10 comments:

Geez Louise♥ said...

You are fantab lady! Glad you like to talk, your blog is so awesome because you do so! Love you lady cakes and I have missed this you and your little place!

Just Add Walter said...

I think I am the same way... so that is bad?! :)

Kimmy said...

Caro, being open isn't a bad thing at all....most people are too closed I find! c'est sure que il y a des limites avec certaines persones....you just have to watch who you share things with...(some people aren't trustworthy....) otherwise no worries :)

Annie said...

Is that a problem? Because I'm the same way.

Gracie said...

I don't think it's a problem because if it helps you I don't see it as a bad thing?!

It's nice when people are open. :)xx

ChinkyGirLMeL said...

I can definitely relate to this Caro. I'm the same way at times. I literally have to bite my tongue to keep myself from talking about something which I shouldn't share with others. I think it's ok to be open, but you have to choose who you are open with. =)

Venassa said...

Unless you're saying things you're embarrassed of later, it's really not a bad thing. I have a hard time making conversation with people so I wish I was a bit more like you.

blueviolet said...

You are what I call a leaky faucet!!!! :)

drollgirl said...

welllllllll, this is better than being completely closed off i think. and people will probably let you know if you are giving them too much info, or if they don't have the time to hear it all. at least i think they will.

i have one friend that talks non-stop. it is kind of hard to be around her. i love her to death, but it is just chatter NON-STOP. one time i saw a 60 minutes episode that talked about this phenom. they were saying that it seems as if these people are trying to connect with others, but they are really pushing others away. strange. but i don't think this is your issue. maybe you are just chatty and social? that isn't so bad!

BL said...

Réponse en français, mon anglais étant poche, désolé...

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Moi aussi j'ai déjà eu tendance à tout raconter, et j'ai encore parfois des rechutes. Ça venait surtout de la volonté de vouloir plaire à tout le monde, quitte à faire une confidence ici et là.

Aujourd'hui, je donne moins de détails et, surtout, j'ai tendance à attendre que les autres s'engagent dans le jeu des confidences avant d'en donner moi-même.

Très intéressant ce billet. Malheureusement, je n'ai pas de conseils à te donner. Seuls quelques coups de poignards dans le dos ou de fausses amitiés m'ont convaincu d'arrêter ça.